The Power of Understanding Yourself

Chapter 7 Romantics It’s About the People for Me

Drink freely the wine life offers you and don’t worry how much you spill.

– Marty Rubin

If your lowest score falls in the B column, then you have developed a more heightened sensitivity to emotions. Somehow, probably during your teen years, you became more aware of the feeling content within your environment. You experience emotion more deeply than many other people and this informs how you construct your delusion and how you communicate with others. I can relate, as my score in the B Column is a 20, tied for my lowest score.

I refer to the low B’s as the Romantics. Your emotional sensitivity makes you more empathetic and even sympathetic to others’ perspectives. Even if your score in this column is not your lowest score, a total below 30 indicates a sensitivity to feelings. Here are some common attributes associated with Romantics:

• Tactful and diplomatic communicator
• Willing mediator
• Prefers to minimize or avoid conflict
• Aware of the impact of actions on emotions of others
• Good at delivering both good and bad news
• Self-sacrificing, altruistic
• A good team player
• Susceptible to emotional manipulation from others (e.g., guilt)
• Influenced by the prevailing emotion(s) in their environment
• A good counselor
• Quick to praise others

Meeting the Romantic

The key to understanding your core ideology as a Romantic is that you will always be aware and influenced by the feelings of those around you and important to you. There is no dishonor ...