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Understanding Identity as a (New) Working Mother

by Janna Koretz

Quick Takes

  • Rethink how you define success
  • Acknowledge that you’re your own worst critic
  • Celebrate your wins—both large and small
  • Treat yourself with understanding and flexibility

Parenthood changes you. The roles you used to play, the identities you used to claim—lawyer, dog lover, spin enthusiast—all come second to your new responsibilities. For some, this rearrangement of priorities can lead to a crisis of identity. This is especially true for women, who for both social and neurological reasons tend to feel the split demands of home and work most acutely.1

As a clinical psychologist focused on the mental health challenges of people in high-pressure careers, I often read ...

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