Driven: How Human Nature Shapes our Choices

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THE DRIVE TO BOND (D2)

That we derive sorrow from the sorrow of others … is by no means confined to the virtuous and humane…. The greatest ruffian, the most hardened violator of the laws of society, is not altogether without it.

—ADAM SMITH

I believe that love cannot be bought, except with love.

—JOHN STEINBECK

In the heart of Dorchester, a lower-income neighborhood in Boston, a Catholic priest has initiated a simple way to try building a close-knit community from a highly fragmented one.¹ After church every Sunday he began passing a hat and urging people, whether Catholic or not, to put their name in and later draw out another person's name. He asked the “ partners” randomly selected in this way to find a time to sit down and talk with each ...