Conflict Resolution at Work for Dummies®

Chapter 16. Asking for a Meeting to Talk about the Conflict

In This Chapter

• Figuring out how to approach someone

• Dealing with resistance tactics

• Considering time and place

The steps I lay out for you in Chapter 15 lead you to a decision about meeting with the person you're in conflict with. (If you haven't read Chapter 15, I suggest you do that now.) You've considered what's most important to you, thought about what may be most important to her, and maybe even asked for a little help to make sure you're looking at the situation with an objective eye. Now it's time to ask for the meeting.

This chapter helps you to do just what the title says; ask for a meeting to talk about the conflict you're having with a co-worker. I help you find the best approach, prepare your responses to resistance and potential rough patches, and then decide on the time and place for the meeting.

Considering the Best Way to Approach the Other Person

Everyone has a different level of comfort with conflict. Some people don't worry about it, and some people obsess over the smallest upset. Keep this in mind as you prepare to approach the person with whom you're having a conflict. Be aware of her stress level, as well as your own. (Chapter 15 can help you determine the underlying issue for both of you, and Chapter 2 tells you more about what kinds of things people bring to conflict.)

If previous attempts at resolution haven't gone well, realize that the other person may see you and want to run the other way. Just because ...