Coaching with NLP For Dummies®

Chapter 17

Shifting Experiences with Submodalities

In This Chapter

• Coaching beyond the content of stories
• Tapping deeper into the senses
• Tackling problems by accessing inner resources
• Transforming limiting beliefs to empowering ones

Have you ever had someone who let you down badly? A supplier, friend, colleague or lover who left you in the lurch? Notice how much emotional energy shifts through your body as you recall the original let-down. Thoughts and emotions tumble around and interfere with your well-being.

Just as I sat down to start this chapter, I noticed how cross I felt about an unreliable web-developer who'd reneged on his commitment for a project in the last week. Furious at his slap-dash behaviour, the fire in my belly raged. I wanted to name and shame him on Facebook for the entire world to see. Luckily, my Pause button kicked in with timely logic. I asked myself how my efforts could achieve any positive results. When I was unable to come up with any possible positives, I realised that I needed to sort through the situation in an effort to gain new understanding for myself.

NLP enables you to shift an experience from shock or anger to acceptance and moving on, putting you back in the driving seat. In my case, by making my image of the situation with the web-developer smaller and smaller in my head, I can eventually shrink it down to a little black and white document and then file it away, just as I do old receipts.

Reframing painful experiences helps clients break ...