TIP 75
BITE YOUR TONGUE
Civility costs nothing, and buys everything.
Our natural tendency is to think that everyone wants to hear the wonderful advice we have to offer. In fact, people may or may not want to hear what you have to say. They may not even be ready to hear your words of wisdom. A simple way to save your breath (and your friendships) is to ask permission first. Let’s see this in action.
You are having dinner with your friend, and he is talking about a problem with his boss. You’ve been listening (Tip 73) and have a clear picture of the problem. The best thing is to wait until your friend says everything he needs to and then asks for your input. However, if your friend isn’t asking and has finished ...
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