Brilliant Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, 2nd Edition

The origins of low self-worth

People who feel bad about themselves usually do so because they have been programmed with negative messages about themselves from an early age. These messages are not always explicit: sometimes the way children are treated drives them to conclusions about their lack of value just as surely as if someone was telling them directly to their face. It is worth briefly examining some of the ways in which negative core beliefs are laid down, because understanding their origins can equip us better to tackle them.

Neglect

Nothing says ‘You’re worthless’ quite like ignoring your basic needs. And basic needs for children include affection and warmth as well as a roof over their heads and food on the table. Children who feel ...